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Sam Stidham Obit

Sam Stidham Obit
Sam Stidham Obit

Sam Logan Stidham, 73, passed away Saturday, June 14, at his residence at Barwick.  He was a carpenter and served as a volunteer deputy for Sheriff Ray Clemons.  He was a member of the Church of God.  He was the son the late Joe and Melda (Sizemore) Stidham.  He was also preceded in death by son, Sam L. Stidham Jr.; sister, Nancy Jane Baker.  He is survived by his wife, Lottie Stidham of Barwick; three sons, Randy & Brenda Combs Stidham of Jackson, David & Sheila Stidham of Chavies, Russell & Faye Stidham of Gays Creek; three daughters, Carlie & Paul Cole of Barwick, Mimie Stidham of Barwick, Hazel Stidham of Barwick; four brothers, James Stidham of Bowling Green, Raleigh Stidham of Barwick, Lloyd Stidham of Barwick, Mack Stidham of Barwick; three sisters, Sally Fugate of Barwick, Cora Baker of Barwick, Laura Baker of Barwick; host of grandchildren and great grandchildren; special nephew, James “Bucky” Baker; special niece, Susan Baker; special friend, Ray Clemons.  Funeral services Wednesday, June 18, 11″00AM at his residence at Barwick with Rev. Danny Oliver and Rev. Waylon Forester officiating.  Burial in Stidham Family Cemetery at Barwick.  Breathitt Funeral Home in charge of arrangements.

Surrendering Frees Energy to Move On

Many of the wisdom traditions speak about the power of surrender. Surrender is not an easy word for those of us in Western civilization, for it implies ‘giving up’, or losing. It may even be associated with a sense of shame. The opposite of surrender might be ‘fighting to the death’.  

 

coolmeIn my recollection of old war movies, or cowboy movies, surrender only happened, it seemed, when one side clearly had no hope of overpowering the other, and preferred surrender to death. I am writing about a different kind of surrender.  

 

It is developing the ability to surrender to what is, and to that over which we have no control, rather than putting a lot of energy into resistance. It is, after all, a losing battle to resist change. We can rail against the loss of a loved one or a job, aging, children leaving home, the coming of winter, the loss of a relationship, or any of the myriad circumstances that happen to us all. Of course we will grieve our losses, but that is not the same as resisting the changes.  

 

Resisting is the refusal to accept what is, and remaining focused on a wish that it could be different than it is. Surrender is the courageous acceptance of the fact that the kaleidoscope of life keeps turning, and it is not our hand that turns it. It is developing the ability to graciously accept the unfolding of life, and doing our best, despite our pain, and despite the fact that what has happened may well be against our wishes.  

 

When we surrender to our journey, with all of its ups and downs, the energy that may have gone into resistance, is now available for moving on, and, sooner or later, move on we must.

 

Gwen Randall-Young is an author and award-winning Psychotherapist.  For permission to reprint this article, or to obtain books or cds, visit www.gwen.ca

We Must Learn to Acknowledge Our Worth

A question was put to me recently, as to how we can deal with childhood pain without making our parents ‘bad guys’. If they continue to exhibit dysfunctional or hurtful behaviors, we may have chosen to keep distance in the relationship so it is not so much of an issue. Sometimes, however, parents who may have treated us harshly years ago, have mellowed into caring, supportive grandparents.  

 

If we have some buried hurts and resentments, dealing with them may feel like being disloyal to parents, and perhaps hurting them. Not dealing with those hurts may create problems in our other relationships.  Even in adulthood then, the hurt child is still protecting and defending the adults who hurt him or her.  

 

There is a way past this dilemma. You can do healing without confronting parents, or even talking to them about past issues. Sometimes it is important to do so. But if reluctance to do so blocks a healing process, then we can find ways to heal that do not involve confrontation.  

 

Even if we do talk to them, parents cannot take away our childhood pain. The pain we experience as adults is more from the negative messages we gave ourselves as a result of the childhood hurts, than from the hurts themselves. Parents may have made you feel like a bad person, or a stupid person. The present day pain, though, comes from you telling yourself you are bad or stupid.  

 

The peace we must make is between our own inner critic, and our inner child. First we must acknowledge our pain, by listening to the hurts of our inner child without rationalizing them away. Then we must acknowledge and validate our worth. Our parents had a strong influence on how we felt about ourselves as children. Once we become adults, it’s up to us.

Gwen Randall-Young is an author and award-winning Psychotherapist.  For permission to reprint this article, or to obtain books or cds, visit www.gwen.ca

Stratton "John" Miller Obit

 

Stratton "John" Miller
Stratton “John” Miller

Stratton “John” Miller, 77, Jackson, passed away Thursday, June 5, at St. Joseph Hospital in Lexington.   He was a US Marine veteran.  He was the widower of the late Ruth Cole Miller and the son of the late Blanton Miller and Pearlie Howard Miller Davis.  He was also preceded in death by daughter, Vickie Mahaney; son, John Robert Miller; brothers, Marvin and Lester Miller; sisters, Gwinlin Davis Carpenter and Flora Miller Lively.  He is survived by five sons:  Stratton(Jessica) Miller of Jackson, Christopher(Gena) Miller of Jackson, David(Alice) Carpenter of Jackson, Timothy(Diane) Carpenter of Pennsylvania, Phillip Carpenter of Jackson; two daughters: Brenda(Mark) Harstad of Arkansas, JoAnna(Steve) Hurd of Indiana; one brother:  Robert(Elivira) Davis of Jackson; one sister: Wanda(Hiram) Fugate of Jackson; fifteen grandchildren: John Paul Mahaney, Michelle Mahaney, Justin Mahaney, Elizabeth Hurd, Brandon Hurd, Wesley Miller,  Kaley Miller, Abigail Miller, Braydon Miller, Brandon Carpenter, Tish Carpenter Davis, Tyler Carpenter, Ethan Carpenter, Megan Carpenter, Allysa Carpenter; host of great grandchildren; host of nieces and nephews. Funeral services Sunday, June 8, 2:00 PM at Breathitt Funeral Home Chapel with Rev. Tim Miller officiating.  Burial in the Bud Howard Family Cemetery at Lambric.  Breathitt Funeral Home in charge of arrangements.

James Herald Stevens Obit

James Herald Stevens
James Herald Stevens

James Harold Stevens, 85, Jackson passed away Monday, June 2, at the Greg and Noreen Wells Hospice Care Center in Hazard.  He was the son of the late Mayo and Gracie (Davis) Stevens.  He is survived by his wife, Lillie (Finley) Stevens of Jackson; three sons, Harold (Barb) Stevens of Noctor, David (Susie) Stevens of Boone County, Jeff (Vickie) Stevens of Indiana; one daughter, Brenda (John) Bellamy of Bracken County; one brother, Ray Stevens of Lexington; two sisters, Ruth Johnson of Jackson, Norene Libatore of Pennsylvania; three grandchildren, Derrick Stevens, Bradley Stevens, Marissa Stevens.  Funeral services Thursday, June 5, 1:00 PM at the Breathitt Funeral Home Chapel with Rev. Tim King officiating.  Burial in the Jackson Cemetery.  Breathitt Funeral Home in charge of arrangements.

Sally Mae Turner Obit

Sally Mae Turner
Sally Mae Turner

Sally Mae Turner, 73, Bowlings Creek passed away Tuesday, June 3, at her residence.  She was the daughter of the late Jesse and Ethel (Deaton) Spicer.  She was also preceded in death by a sister, Audrey Spicer.  She is survived by her husband, William Turner of Bowlings Creek; two daughters, Jeanette (Wade) Miller of Vest, Tracie Turner of Bowlings Creek; three brothers, Jr. Spicer of Bowlings Creek, Robert Lee Spicer of Bowlings Creek, Lindburg Spicer of Bowlings Creek; six sisters, Betty Spicer of Altro, Mary Frances Spicer of Altro, Teresa Neace of Bonnieville, Georgia Bernard of Franklin, Ohio, Shirley Faye Deaton of Austin, Indiana, Lula Marie Stamper of Franklin, Ohio; two grandchildren, Jessica Turner, Whitney Ritchie; three great grandchildren, Kayleigh Renee Turner, Jonathan Allen Turner, Joshua Dale Ritchie.  Funeral services, Friday, June 6, 11:00 AM at the Breathitt Funeral Home Chapel with Rev. Chris Turner, Rev. Albert Little, Rev. Robbie Turner, Rev. Ryan Spicer officiating.  Burial in the Turner Spicer Cemetery at Bowlings Creek.  Breathitt Funeral Home in charge of arrangements.

Finding Our Purpose

It is common these days to hear people talk about finding their purpose. They recognize that what they are doing with their lives is okay, maybe even very good, but somehow there is the feeling that they have more inside them that has yet to come out.

 It seems to me that talk of purpose has two major aspects. One is very personal. It is about something that is unique to the individual, an inner urge that needs to find expression. The second aspect relates to doing something good-for other people, or for the world at large.          

 

In short, it is as though we have each come with a gift for the world, and we do not want to leave before we have given it. Many experience frustration, however, because they do not know what it is. Generally, finding our purpose is not a “light bulb” event. Rather, our purpose tends to reveal itself to us over time, or sometimes, as I like to think, it finds us.

 

If we take direction from our intuition, it will guide us. If we have an urge to try something new, to become involved in some volunteer effort or project, act on that urge. Do not dismiss it because it does not feel like your purpose. It may just be a doorway.

 

If you feel you have a purpose beyond what you are doing now, honor that knowing. Let your heart nudge you along. We need these nudgings to get ego out of the way. You see, your soul knows your purpose, and those nudgings are its whisperings. It is not so much that we are looking for our purpose, but rather that it is calling to us. All we need to is to listen…and respond.

 

Gwen Randall-Young is an author and award-winning Psychotherapist.  For permission to reprint this article, or to obtain books or cds, visit www.gwen.ca

Growing Through Pain

Have you ever walked a distance, looking down at the ground, and then looked up, surprised at how far you had travelled?  Sometimes we get so wrapped up in the details of our lives, or the struggles one inevitably encounters along the path, that we forget we are progressing.

Success, however, is not measured only in the distance travelled, but in how much we have learned along the way. Whenever my clients berate themselves for having made what they call a mistake, or because it is taking them a long time to learn a lesson that keeps coming at them, I smile. I smile because I know how much learning happens at times like these.

 

Even if we consider some life choice to be a mistake, we recognize there must be a degree of consciousness behind that awareness. It means we have a concept of a better way.

 

It is the challenges we face in life that deepen and expand our character. It is our own suffering that allows us to truly understand the pain of others, and to develop a compassionate heart. When we are down and dejected, feeling sorrow or sadness, we may feel we are stuck, and are not progressing, when in reality our connection to, and understanding of others is growing.

 

The “great wind” of our own soul awareness is bearing us across the sky of human understanding. We should embrace this experience even when it is difficult, for it is profound.

Gwen Randall-Young is an author and award-winning Psychotherapist.  For permission to reprint this article, or to obtain books or cds, visit www.gwen.ca

Are You an Emotional Eater?

“Wisdom is nothing more than healed pain.”

                                                                       Robert Gary Lee

 

Many who struggle with weight are sabotaged by emotional eating. They eat when they are happy, they eat when they are sad, and sometimes they just eat because eating feels good. It can be terribly difficult to break this habit because it is usually quite deep rooted.

               

It goes back to childhood when eating “fun” food was associated with birthday parties, holidays and family get-togethers. In happy families, mealtimes had positive associations; mom and dad were there and the time may have included humor and affection.

               

These are not, however, the main things that cause emotional eating to persist. The real culprit is food that was used to comfort an upset child. If you hurt yourself, you got a treat. If someone was mean to you and you were upset, it was into the kitchen for a treat.

               

Why does this result in adult emotional eating?  It is because food was used to distract the child from the pain, and the pain itself was never dealt with. As a result, the child never learned how to think about or process painful events.

               

Where parents took the time to really explore the child’s feelings about what happened, they could help the child reframe the event, learn not to take it personally, and know how to deal with similar events in the future. It is comforting for the child to hear these things, and over time they learn to think things through this way. They learn to self-comfort.

 

The adult who never learned this then distracts her/himself with food, and simply buries the pain. Over the years the well of pain becomes deeper and deeper. Every painful experience brings forth the vulnerable child who does not know what to do, so the automatic, often unconscious response is to reach for comfort food.

 

How does one get past this?  It is important to first recognize our pattern, and to re-visit the painful experiences of childhood. This can be difficult, which is why it is often done with a trusted therapist. The adult must learn to nurture and support the painful inner child, and then how to process the adult experiences which trigger the old pattern.

 

It can be a complex process, but it has taken a lifetime to develop and take hold. Healing the pain of the past is an essential step in moving forward.

Gwen Randall-Young is an author and award-winning Psychotherapist.  For permission to reprint this article, or to obtain books or cds, visit www.gwen.ca

Breathitt Politics ……. The BEST That MONEY Can BUY!!!!!

Mention Breathitt Politics to anyone and 9 times out of 10 you will hear a reply that has to do with vote buying. Over the years there have been some real winners who have bought their way in to office. Do not be mistaken, it isn’t just local offices either. Vote buying is rampant from school board elections all the way up the political chain. I must point out, not everyone buys votes in these elections. And this is why they can never win. The vote buying crew will vote dead people, people out of state and will buy votes using everything from Gravel, Bridges, Money, Alcohol and the new favorite, Pills.

Working people just don't have a chance in Breathitt County
Working people just don’t have a chance in Breathitt County

I remember a phone call I got from my mother when I was stationed in California. She asked me why I never visited her when I was there, in Kentucky, to vote in that years election. Of course she was kidding because I was in California. The problem however, was someone did in fact vote on my behalf at the Caney School Voting Precint. No big deal right?? Well, the fact is, I was never in Kentucky during the election. Someone signed my name and cast my vote. Makes you wonder just how many people voted and had no clue. Vote buying is a way of life in Breathitt County.

Why won’t local or even state authorities do something about it you may ask? Well, mostly because it is political. If they are not the benefactor of prosecuting voute buying, then nothing is ever done. What about the recent prosecutions that included former Breathitt Superintendent Arch Turner? To be honest, as one friend put it to me, those arrests and prosecutions may have done more to help vote buying that anything. You see, vote buyers feel secure now that the Feds and Kentucky Attorney General won’t come after them because the authorities already made their splash in Breathitt County. How else can you explain this years elections and the people who won. Some of the very people who are supposedly still under investigation for vote buying during the same election Arch Turner was busted in, are running wild in Breathitt County. The State and Feds were provided with, photos and videos in a couple cases of vote buying and dozens were interviewed by the Feds for clear violations of vote buying. They still walk the streets free men and some are still in office.

Breathitt County Elections, The best Money can buy!!
Breathitt County Elections, The best Money can buy!!

During the May elections in Breathitt County, The Attorney General released the following Statement;

ATTORNEY GENERAL CONWAY’S ELECTION FRAUD HOTLINE RECEIVES 205 CALLS ON PRIMARY ELECTION DAY 
 
FRANKFORT, Ky. (May 21, 2014) – Attorney General Jack Conway announced today that his Election Fraud Hotline received 205 calls from more than 60 counties between 6 a.m. and 7 p.m. (EST) during yesterday’s primary election.  Forty-nine calls involved allegations of vote buying/selling.“The Election Fraud Hotline is an important tool for voters to help protect the integrity of Kentucky’s elections,” General Conway said.  “My office will thoroughly review each complaint for possible criminal violations.  If an investigation is deemed necessary, the complaint will be referred to the appropriate agency.”

Election Fraud Hotline Calls by Issue for 2014 Primary Election

49   Vote Buying/Selling (8 – Breathitt, 8 – Clay, 4 – Pike, 3 – Bell, 3 – Floyd, 3 – Harlan, 3 – Laurel, 3 – Owsley, 2 – Carter, 2 – Knott, 2 – Magoffin, 1 – Bath, 1 – Clinton,  1 – Knox, 1 – Lee, 1 – Morgan, 1 – Muhlenberg, 1 – Perry, 1 – Wayne)

43   Legal Questions

25   Procedural Questions

25   General Election Fraud/Other

16   Electioneering within 300’ of Polls

12   Election Official

11  Special or Absentee Ballot

7  Residency

6  Voter Identification

5  Voting Machine

3  Voter Assistance

3  Disrupting Polls

2   Request for Assistance/Monitoring

2  Campaign Violation

1  Campaign Finance

Top Election Fraud Hotline Calls by County

Breathitt – 15 (8 – Vote Buying/Selling, 2 – Disrupting Polls, 2 – Electioneering within 300’ of Polls, 1 – General Election Fraud/Other,  1 – Legal Question, 1 – Procedural Question, 1 – Residency)

 

Floyd – 12  (3 – Vote Buying/Selling, 2 – Legal Question, 2 – Voter Assistance, 1 – Campaign Finance, 1 – Campaign Violation, 1 – Election Official, 1 – General Election Fraud/Other, 1 – Procedural Question, 1 – Special or Absentee Ballot)

 

Pike – 11 (4 – Vote Buying/Selling, 3 – Procedural Question, 2 – General Election Fraud/Other, 1 – Election Official, 1 – Electioneering within 300’ of Polls)

 

Pulaski – 11 (3 – Electioneering within 300’ of Polls, 3 – General Election Fraud/Other, 2 – Residency, 1 – Legal Question, 1 – Procedural Question, 1 – Special or Absentee Ballot)

 

The Office of the Attorney General, by law, cannot provide details regarding specific complaints or possible pending investigations.

 

In addition to the hotline, investigators from General Conway’s Department of Criminal Investigations patrolled precincts and polling places across the Commonwealth yesterday to respond immediately to complaints.  The Attorney General’s Office, which has jurisdiction to investigate and prosecute election law violations, is also a member of the Kentucky Election Integrity Task Force.

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Breathitt County was selected as part of the Election Audit by the State Attorney Generals office. Don’t hold your breath folks. There aree no votes in it for them to pursue anything.

Vote for the best man for the job, not the one trying to buy you
Vote for the best man for the job, not the one trying to buy you

I am told, by several people under anonimity, that some high profile offices were bought by a group in the so called “clique” for $130.00, or pills and or alcohol. Will authorities do anything about the May Election and the rampant vote buying? Only time will tell, but for now, it doesn’t look like anything will be done. Vote buying may be on of the most UNPATRIOTIC things anyone can do. Thousands of brave Men and Women are giving their lives daily while serving this country so that a bunch of lazy scum and Power hungry politicians can buy & sell votes.

(Opinion voiced by writer and not necessarily the views of East KY Media)