Recently I was reading again about the idea of others being mirrors of ourselves. This is a very powerful concept in terms of our personal growth, for it gives us an opportunity to access our understanding, compassion and tolerance. It is also a very difficult concept to put into practice because of our tendency to hold tightly to denial. Let me explain.
The theory holds that the person who irritates us the most is the one from whom we have most to learn. Consider that the person who drives us up the wall may not affect others the same way at all. They are getting under our skin because there is something we need to see. What is bothering us so much about them is a quality that also exists in us.
Our immediate response to that idea is outright denial! We deny it because it is a quality we dislike so much that we reject even the suggestion we may possess it. Consequently, that one person we cannot stand makes sure that quality is regularly right in our face!
A specific example might be a friend who is disloyal, who talks behind your back. Of course that is hurtful. But there you are, venting to someone else about this, doing exactly what she did. It is probably not the first time you have done that either, if not to this friend, to someone else. Another example might be your annoyance or frustration with a partner who never shows appreciation. You might feel taken for granted. If you stop to reflect though, you might find that you do not do it very often yourself, or when you do it is with the expectation that the compliment will be returned.
Children can be very powerful mirrors. We may try to maintain certain standards in our dealings with them, but they will certainly notice and be affected with we slip up. If we have children who are very angry, we are forced to look our own anger. Parents sometimes think it is alright for them to be angry with the children, but not the other way around. Unfortunately, mirrors do not work that way.
What we see out there is, in some respect, a reflection of something within us. When we change that negative quality within ourselves, we will no longer attract those mirrors.
Gwen Randall-Young is an author and award-winning Psychotherapist. For permission to reprint this article, or to obtain books or cds, visit www.gwen.ca
Lexington, Ky. – The eyes of the nation are upon you. Media, fans, recruits, NBA scouts… everyone wants a glimpse of the Kentucky Wildcats – men’s college basketball’s all-time leader in victories, winning percentage, total NCAA tournament appearances, Sweet 16 appearances, Elite Eight appearances, etc… It’s known as the ‘bluest of the blue-blood’ programs within college basketball.
At the center of it all is outspoken coach John Calipari, who’s in search of the program’s ninth National Championship in 2014, a feat that would place it in sole possession of second place on the all-time list behind only UCLA.
On Monday, Dec. 9 at 7:30 PM ET, Calipari sits down with FOX Sports college basketball analyst Bill Raftery in a special FOX SPORTS 1-ON-1 interview to talk about life, bullying, in-state rival Louisville, the NBA and why he felt taking the reins at Kentucky isn’t for everyone.
“…if you took a job and (have) never been fired, you’re a golden boy, nothing ever happened to you; never coached a high-level player and then – the last part of it – is you had the weakest schedules in the world; you are going to fail here. You are not going to make it.” Calipari told FOX Sports 1-ON-1.
“So, I walked in and said, ‘You know what? I have already been fired.” Calipari continued. “What is the worst they can do – eat me?”
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(Editorial by Ron Hamblin) As someone who has been in Small Business for about 20 years and someone who has struggled to get insurance due to high costs, I was a little excited when Obamacare was first announced. I thought, finally, we may be able to afford insurance and provide it for our workers. What a joke that turned out to be. First off, the insurance rates are much higher than before Obamacare, and second, in poor rural areas, like Eastern Kentucky, Obamacare has been nothing more than a handout for people who aren’t willing to get off their couch and find work. Why would they?? You can draw a check, free medical and not leave the house. PERFECT!!
I get weekly press releases from both parties and had to share one I just got from the Democratic National Party. Keep in mind, I am not Republican or Democrat. I personally believe both parties are, “crooked as a dog’s hind leg.” I feel that most politicians have totally lost track of why they are in office. It is not a career position to work in Washington, yet most politicians think it is a career. They have lost all touch with what real Americans are going through. That being said, I will elaborate on the press release.
It starts by slamming Rand Paul. It stated, “Rand Paul hasn’t been spending much time in Kentucky. Maybe that explains why he’s so out of touch with his constituents’ experiences with the Affordable Care Act. While Paul says getting Obamacare made him an “unhappy person,” people in Kentucky are having a very different experience when they get covered. In fact, if Rand Paul got his way, he would repeal the Affordable Care Act – leaving many Kentuckians without coverage and returning to a system where folks in Kentucky went bankrupt because they got sick.”
The fact is, that statement is total nonsense. Most Kentuckians I talk to, Democrats, are in agreement with Rand Paul. He may be MORE in TOUCH with constituents than any other candidate. When organizations like the DNC make these kinds of statements, it is clear they have no clue what Kentuckians in Eastern KY are going through. Breathitt County is Democrat country and I do not think Obama even carried Breathitt in the past election. Paul would win East KY in a landslide. So who is really out of touch with Constituents?
In another statement in the press release, which was directed at a NY Post Article on those signing up for Obamacare in Breathitt County, “In rural Kentucky, health-care debate takes back seat as the long-uninsured line up” , it stated, “Courtney Lively, a navigator, on Kentuckians signing up: “People have been ‘pouring in’.” Well that statement is true. If you know anything about Breathitt County or any poor county, Of course they are lining up. IT IS FREE HEALTH CARE!! Who is paying for these free handouts? Hard working American taxpayers.
For the DNC to send out press releases bragging about Obamacare, it clearly shows they are out of touch with hard working Americans. Most Americans, the majority, thinks both parties are out of touch with their concerns. If politicians had to live under the same rules and laws as taxpayers, they would not spend all their time railroading American rights and WOULD make rules, laws and guideline that truly help Americans.
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